Betrayal can be a deeply painful experience, shaking the very foundation of our trust and sense of security. Whether it's a romantic partner's infidelity, a broken promise from a friend, or a violation of trust from a family member, the emotional impact of betrayal can be significant.

At Calgary Couples Therapy and Coaching, we understand the complexities of betrayal trauma and are here to support you on your healing journey. This journey isn't always linear, but understanding the stages of betrayal trauma can help you navigate your emotions and move towards a place of healing.

The Emotional Rollercoaster: Common Stages of Betrayal Trauma

Here's a look at some of the common stages people experience after a betrayal:

Shock and Denial: The initial reaction to betrayal is often disbelief and numbness. You might question what happened, hoping it's all a misunderstanding. This is a natural defense mechanism, allowing you to process the shock before facing the full emotional impact.

Anger and Outrage: As the reality of the betrayal sets in, anger often takes hold. You might feel rage towards the person who betrayed you, questioning their motives and actions.

Bargaining and Guilt: In an attempt to regain control, you might find yourself bargaining or making deals. "If only I had done X, then Y wouldn't have happened." Guilt may also arise, questioning if there was something you could have done differently.

Sadness and Grief: The deep hurt and disappointment that follows betrayal often manifests as sadness and grief. You might experience feelings of loss, isolation, and a sense of the world being unpredictable.

Obsession and Rumination: Your mind might become fixated on the details of the betrayal, replaying events and questioning everything. This obsessive thinking can be all-consuming and hinder healing.

Acceptance and Forgiveness: Reaching a place of acceptance doesn't mean condoning the betrayal, but rather acknowledging what happened and moving forward. Forgiveness, while not always possible, can be a powerful tool for letting go of anger and resentment.

It's Important to Remember:

Healing from betrayal trauma is a personal journey, and the time it takes to move through these stages varies for everyone. There may be setbacks along the way, and that's okay.

Finding Support on Your Healing Journey

If you're struggling with the aftermath of betrayal, you don't have to go through it alone. At Calgary Couples Therapy and Coaching, our compassionate therapists can provide a safe and supportive space for you to process your emotions, develop coping skills, and rebuild your sense of trust.

We offer individual therapy to help you navigate the emotional rollercoaster of betrayal trauma. We can also provide couples therapy if you're interested in repairing a relationship impacted by betrayal.

Take the First Step Towards Healing

Contact Calgary Couples Therapy and Coaching today for a free consultation. We're here to walk alongside you on your journey towards healing and a brighter future. To get in touch with us, please click here or email us at info@calgarycouplestherapy.com